In the edgy world of BDSM and kink, the role of Consent Monitors (often referred to as Dungeon Masters), is crucial for maintaining a safe and enjoyable environment. These dedicated volunteers play an essential part in safeguarding the collective well-being at events. Let’s delve into what being a Consent Monitor entails, their role and the boundaries that need to be respected.
Consent Monitors are individuals who step up to ensure that the principles of consent and safety are upheld during Casa Kink’s events. Their primary focus is on creating a secure space where everyone can explore their kinks freely and responsibly. It’s important to note that being a Consent Monitor doesn't necessarily make one a kink expert. Rather, it signifies their commitment to assist from a safety perspective.
Some Consent Monitors are indeed experts in specific areas of play, but it’s crucial to understand that they don't owe anyone their expertise. They are not at the event to provide skills development or training (unless they are facilitating an educational piece). Their presence is a voluntary service, not a license for participants to interrupt their personal activities or seek constant guidance. Consent Monitors, like all attendees, are entitled to enjoy their own scenes and downtime without interference.
We aim to have 1 Consent Monitor for every 8-10 folk at our events. At this level there are enough CMs to cover the space as well as the people at the event and still allow Consent Monitors to have their own play and down time. Our Consent Monitors can be identified by their armbands.
CMs are there because of their love for the kink collective and a desire to ensure a positive experience for all. Their role involves asking and answering questions, sharing experiences, and clarifying uncertainties to promote a safer environment. This approach helps build a community where safety is a shared responsibility.
If at any time during an event you feel unsafe, or feel that a play might be unsafe, please chat to one of our Consent Monitors. If you have questions about a play or a kink in general, feel free to approach a Consent Monitor who is not currently engaged in a play or aftercare and have a chat.
While CMs are vigilant about safety, they are not the "kink police." They are part of a support system, not a report system. When they engage with participants, it’s not an interrogation or an attempt to impose a rigid set of rules. Instead, their interactions come from a place of genuine interest and concern for everyone's safety and enjoyment.
Consent Monitors are the unsung heroes of our Casa Kink events. They volunteer their time and energy to make sure everyone can play safely and consensually. By respecting their boundaries and understanding their role, we contribute to a more harmonious and secure BDSM community. Remember, that they are volunteers, that they are there to support, not to police, and their primary goal is the well-being of all participants.
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